“You are a living, breathing story. What you make of your story makes you.”
—Barbara Stahura, CJF

“Story is the mother of us all.”
—Christina Baldwin

“We live not by things, but by the meanings of things.”
—Antoine de St.-Exupery

“The story of your life is the tale that you repeatedly tell yourself about who you are, what you want, and what you can and cannot do.”
—Carol S. Pearson, PhD.

“Everything is story, including our identities, our selves, our meanings and purposes, our theories about the world.”
—Dr. Lewis Mehl-Madrona

“We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
—The Talmud

“The words you speak become the house you live in.”
—Hafiz

“Change the story and you change perceptions; change perception and you change the world.”
—Jean Houston

“Story. Story is my medicine.”
—Deena Metzger

Expressing Doubts

“Send me someone who has doubts about it/Who has conquered their own fear and lived to tell about it.” This line from David Crosby’s song “Dangerous Night” always touches my heart—-so much pain and longing and hope there. Admitting doubt these days requires courage and, oddly enough, great conviction—-that if perhaps I am wrong after […]

Do Old Habits Have to Die Hard?

The other day Ken sneezed and I immediately said, “Bless you.” I’ve done this thousands of times over my lifetime when someone sneezed. My Catholic parents trained me to say “God bless you” so I still do it, decades later, even though I’m no longer religious. When I don’t say it, a feeling of incompleteness […]

The Good and Bad of Labels

I’ve been thinking lately about how we so naturally place labels on things and people and how they affect our Living, Breathing Story. Neurologically speaking, that labeling is a good thing—it allows our brains to make sense of the world so that we can more easily navigate through it. But these names and categories don’t exist in a vacuum. They all have emotional associations connected to them. While this further helps you function more easily in the world, it also leads to many potential problems in interactions with other human beings, each of whom has his or her own associations with the labels (see how confusing this can get?) .

How Have Your Personal Myths Shaped You?

Your life is built on any number of myths. I don’t mean that as an insult, or that your life is not true or has not happened. Far from it. As one of my favorite authors Unitarian Universalist minister Kate Braestrup said in a sermon some years ago: “A myth is a story that illustrates […]

The Power of “Yet”

This tiny, common word packs a ton of hope—and your body knows it. “Yet” can be a trusted guide through the Foreboding Forest of Fear or a safe passage across the Ocean of Doubt. It encourages you to keep going when perhaps you would rather just turn around and climb back under the covers. While it does not guarantee success—a fish will never be able to climb a tree, no matter how much it tries—it can improve your odds.

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