Sounds like a silly question, I know. But think about it. Your answer determines how you live in that body, which determines a great deal of how you experience reality.
Is your body simply the mechanism that carries your head around, or is it, as Mary Oliver wrote, a “soft animal…that loves what it loves”? Is it more of a prison or more of a sacred space? A done deal or an evolving answer? Merely a lump of conscious meat or something more mysterious, even miraculous? Separate from everything else or inextricably joined with the entire whole of creation?
I’ve been thinking about this question while working on a journaling program about how we embody our stories (our thoughts about our experiences). Because that is what we do: Through the vehicle of our body, we live out the thoughts that create our experience of reality. We cannot pull the mind and the body apart, like Legos; instead, they are one, a whole entity together. In a process so deeply complex we likely will never fully understand it, our bodymind uses thoughts and physiological responses to create our experience of reality.
Two examples of how we embody stories:
Say you read a post on Facebook. The words in themselves have no meaning except that which you assign to them—the story you make out of them. And these words anger the bejesus out of you! Immediately, thanks to those thoughts, your muscles tense, your stomach hurts, your blood pressure and pulse zoom skyward. Your body pours out cortisol and adrenaline, which cause damage when you produce too much over time. Anger also compromises neurons in the brain, which, again, is not healthy over time. You feel separate and divided from other people. If you respond in anger to the post, that only keeps your internal cycle going and likely escalates the situation—round and round you go! But not in a good way.
Now say you see another post. Only not only do you agree with this one, it makes you happy. Your internal story about this post is positive. Now your body feels lighter. Your blood pressure and pulse drop into or stay at healthy levels. Your brain produces dopamine, oxytocin, endorphin, serotonin, and other biochemicals that produce feelings of happiness and help you stay calmer and healthier. You feel more connected to others and, at the moment, see the world in a better light.
Either way, all of this happens because of your thoughts—which only have meaning because of the stories you create with them. Which thoughts would you rather have? Which effects would you rather have produced in your body?
(Now, this does not mean you can’t ever be angry or that you need to ignore or stuff your anger. Anger is a useful and necessary emotion, as are all emotions. Just be aware of what it can do to you, and learn how to manage it better.)
If you want to explore the stories you embody, here’s an exercise in contrast you can try, with your journal or without:
Recall a time you had an intense negative reaction to something you read or saw. Or, even better, wait until you experience such a reaction and have your journal handy. (Perhaps it is a political ad or post, which often elicit explosive reactions these days.) As best you can, write about the story you create about this thing: What are your thoughts about it? Why is your reaction so negative? And what reactions are happening in your body at this time? Pay close attention and write them down too.
Then, still sitting with your journal, simply change your thoughts. It likely will take a few minutes. Choose something that makes you feel happy, even joyous, or something that soothes you. It can be a memory or something you imagine, but let yourself feel it deeply. Or you can give yourself a hug—wrap your arms around yourself, or tenderly stroke your arm or your face. (This produces oxytocin and reduces cortisol. http://self-compassion.org/the-chemicals-of-care-how-self-compassion-manifests-in-our-bodies/) You can add slow, deep breathing to this. Once again, write about this experience with as much detail as you can.
As you do this exercise, don’t judge or criticize yourself for either position. This is simply meant to demonstrate how thoughts create our experience of reality. And how we change our Living, Breathing Story by changing our thoughts.